Porozumienie bez przemocy. O języku życia
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- Author：Marshall B. Rosenberg
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Summary
Nowe wydanie "Porozumienia bez przemocy: o języku życia" Marshalla Rosenberga wzbogacone zostało o obszerny rozdział na temat mediacji w duchu PBP - zupełnie niepodobnych do klasycznych mediacji， z którymi ktokolwiek z nas miał szansę się zetknąć。 Punktem wyjścia w procesie opisywanym przez Rosenberga jest， jak i w całej jego metodzie， kontakt międzyludzki na poziomie serca， bez którego mediacje nie mogą się w ogóle rozpocząć。 Inny jest też cel: Rosenberg jako mediator nie dąży do kompromisu， lecz - uwaga！ - do tego， by każda ze stron zakończyła konflikt w pełni usatysfakcjonowana。 Brzmi niewiarygodnie， lecz， jak udowadnia autor na licznych przykładach ze swojej pracy， jest to możliwe。
Reviews
Marek Zmyslowski
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Give it to everyone in your family and everyone you work with。 Thank me later。 Evaluation vs observation， needs vs judgements， emotional analphabetism， and many other things I didn't pay enough attention earlier。 Plus the author has one of the softest voices in the audio version。 Give it to everyone in your family and everyone you work with。 Thank me later。 Evaluation vs observation， needs vs judgements， emotional analphabetism， and many other things I didn't pay enough attention earlier。 Plus the author has one of the softest voices in the audio version。 。。。more
Kyle Treasure
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Like so many books， could’ve been a TED talk or a really fantastic podcast episode！
Bettina
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I feel moved by this book because I learned how to better understand and listen to my needs and what's alive in me and how important that is for making life great。 Great read！ I feel moved by this book because I learned how to better understand and listen to my needs and what's alive in me and how important that is for making life great。 Great read！ 。。。more
Stephenie Couch
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HIGHLY RECOMMEND
DTK
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Abandonei
Bryn Swain
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“I’ve learned that I enjoy human beings more if I don’t hear what they think。 Especially with folks who have his kind of thoughts。 I’ve learned to savor life much more by only hearing what’s going on in their hearts and not getting caught up with the stuff in their heads。”— Michael Rosenberg“We talk to others or at them without knowing how to engage in a dialogue with them。 We toss out words， using the presence of others as a wastebasket。”— Michael Rosenberg
Luciano Demery
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Uma das piores coisas que eu já li na minha vida。
Emily Anderson
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Wow。 Wow。 Wow。 Wow。This book changed my life。 I'm not even kidding。 Being a MSW student， I've read so many psychology based books， and this one is the best。 It aligns most with my values and resonates most with my experience。This book centers around how to communicate non-violently （who would've guessed right？）。 Rosenberg is a modern-day Carl Rogers。 The way he interacts with people by presenting issues as his needs and communicating that the reason for stating these needs is to preserve the rel Wow。 Wow。 Wow。 Wow。This book changed my life。 I'm not even kidding。 Being a MSW student， I've read so many psychology based books， and this one is the best。 It aligns most with my values and resonates most with my experience。This book centers around how to communicate non-violently （who would've guessed right？）。 Rosenberg is a modern-day Carl Rogers。 The way he interacts with people by presenting issues as his needs and communicating that the reason for stating these needs is to preserve the relationship is groundbreaking。 It sounds simple， but it's not。 He also emphasizes play， not doing things simply because you "have to，" validating first， asking what the other person hears before moving forward in discussion， always making sure that the other person doesn't hear your feelings as personal criticism， understanding your needs， identifying what does and does not meet your needs， never personally criticizing， and only stating things as "I'm not having my need for x met because of [this specific instance]。" If you can't tell from my rambling above， I loved this book。 Everyone I know should read it。 。。。more
Sky
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Pretty much necessary reading for anyone that intends to communicate with other humans。 Whether it be in the context of relationship or coworkers。
Pooja Mathur
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Really appreciated the step by step approach。 I'm not quite convinced that this solves everything， but maybe I'll feel differently after putting these steps into practice。 Really appreciated the step by step approach。 I'm not quite convinced that this solves everything， but maybe I'll feel differently after putting these steps into practice。 。。。more
Mihai_Elrond
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In this book I found a new way of approaching communication， the fundamental stone of human relationships。 It's like enlightenment in so many aspects of life。 A book more important than gold to say the least。 In this book I found a new way of approaching communication， the fundamental stone of human relationships。 It's like enlightenment in so many aspects of life。 A book more important than gold to say the least。 。。。more
Jessica
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I found the audiobook to be lacking in key Connections because it is abridged。 I believe that the full text will be more helpful。
LS Schulz
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A number of interesting thoughts in here。 Does seem like it would take much practice and is a constant learning process。
Osmarpetry
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Mais um daqueles livros que precisa ter enfretado problema para entender e absorve de verdade o conteúdo。 Então se você já faz terapias com um profissional， esse livro fica parecendo uma sessão com psicólogo sem fim。
Danielle
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I wish this was modeled from an early age and maybe taught in high school。 Everyone would benefit from learning and practicing NVC。 It is a great unlearning for me to express in this new way。
Lara Kimberly
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this is one to go back to repeatedly。
Qiluoao
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以前从来没有意识到分类和评判提倡的其实是暴力。习惯性给自己不喜欢的人扣上“虚伪”的帽子。虽然这场批判仅限于我个人与对方的交际且对方并不知情，但是此类思维方式会阻碍我与他人的合作与交流，久而久之自己就闭塞了。可以通过“我（感到）……因为我……”这种表达方式来认识感受与自身的关系。清晰地表达自己的感受和愿望，而非判断或指责，才是有效的沟通方式。真诚待人比委曲求全更为可贵。如果别人感到不安，我们可以认真地倾听，但无须责备自己。
Vadim Meleshuk
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This book came recommended from close people。 Other close people have a problem with me coming across as judgmental and opinionated。 I do want to fix it！ I really wanted to learn something new。 Instead， what this book did is 1） get me to think about the subjects （good！） and 2） get me turned off on the rationalization for my goals。 I wanted to believe the conclusions。 But the arguments were so non-scientific and sufficiently self-contradictory that I started doubting my goals instead， only becomi This book came recommended from close people。 Other close people have a problem with me coming across as judgmental and opinionated。 I do want to fix it！ I really wanted to learn something new。 Instead， what this book did is 1） get me to think about the subjects （good！） and 2） get me turned off on the rationalization for my goals。 I wanted to believe the conclusions。 But the arguments were so non-scientific and sufficiently self-contradictory that I started doubting my goals instead， only becoming more convinced that a lot of the world's interaction is driven by manipulation and not the need for acceptance。 I don't care for the empathy in many cases。 I really do look for the genuine understanding。 I did extract some value though - e。g。 being more conscious about the divide between observations and evaluation， even if I disagree about the value of evaluation。 It was also interesting to find the author de-value the compliments as frequently manipulative， something I agree with。 。。。more
subzero
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Practical strategies and incisive insights about our inner lives。 Many of the pronouncements about the root of our emotions made me uncomfortable and even upset， it is good to have my assumptions challenged。
Cecilia
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I would recommend everyone read this book。 I had heard and been familiar with the basic ideas of nonviolent communication for a long time - things like using "I statements" or being compassionate about others' perspectives。 But this book dives into so many more details and subtleties of communication than I would ever have thought about on my own。 One read-through was not enough。 I borrowed it from the library but I think now I will be buying my own copy。 I would recommend everyone read this book。 I had heard and been familiar with the basic ideas of nonviolent communication for a long time - things like using "I statements" or being compassionate about others' perspectives。 But this book dives into so many more details and subtleties of communication than I would ever have thought about on my own。 One read-through was not enough。 I borrowed it from the library but I think now I will be buying my own copy。 。。。more
Александар Ђурић
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Very good book。 It is one of these books that I keep on my shelf and re-read everyday。It is very similar to "How to win friends and Influence People" - but it is a much lighter read。 Very good book。 It is one of these books that I keep on my shelf and re-read everyday。It is very similar to "How to win friends and Influence People" - but it is a much lighter read。 。。。more
Josh
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This book describes the basic rules in communication that are critical in building strong relationships。 Yet， these rules are not observed enough in our everyday social settings。 In daily interactions， we should ask ourselves: are we genuinely connecting or too busy judging， attacking， defending， wronging， accusing， conspiring， manipulating。。。？ If all we have is a hammer， naturally everything looks like a nail。 Authentic connection begins with listening without judgement。 It requires listening w This book describes the basic rules in communication that are critical in building strong relationships。 Yet， these rules are not observed enough in our everyday social settings。 In daily interactions， we should ask ourselves: are we genuinely connecting or too busy judging， attacking， defending， wronging， accusing， conspiring， manipulating。。。？ If all we have is a hammer， naturally everything looks like a nail。 Authentic connection begins with listening without judgement。 It requires listening with the sole intention to empathise with other people， helping them to release their internal tensions。 It also about stopping ourselves from giving unsolicited advice。 This behavioural change will require patience and practice to break old patterns but not impossible to accomplish。 。。。more
Esthermita RG
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Muy interesante。 Me quedo con el método repetido a lo largo del libro para detectar nuestras propias necesidades y las de los demás ante cualquier situación e intentaré ponerlo en práctica。。。
Leane
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Everyone needs this book。 If you’ve been wondering whether you should read this — this is your sign！ It will change your life and the way you perceive the world。
J Woodward
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There were a couple of tidbits of worth in this book， especially as it applies to allowing onesself to slow down and listen。 If this book were titled 'look for the unmet need behind a speaker's intention and try and speak it out loud to them'， it would have spoiled the ending。As others have mentioned， there is a LOT of bolstering what felt like a somewhat underdeveloped and semi-impractical theory of communication， backed up with plenty of saccharine or unbelievable anecdotes。 And a lot of poetr There were a couple of tidbits of worth in this book， especially as it applies to allowing onesself to slow down and listen。 If this book were titled 'look for the unmet need behind a speaker's intention and try and speak it out loud to them'， it would have spoiled the ending。As others have mentioned， there is a LOT of bolstering what felt like a somewhat underdeveloped and semi-impractical theory of communication， backed up with plenty of saccharine or unbelievable anecdotes。 And a lot of poetry。Aside from the stylistic and content-related problems though， I really feel as though the message was lost somewhere between conception and practical application。 I believe that there were in the neighborhood of ten examples of the technique being applied and without fail， there was a degree of almost ESP-like "I sensed the need behind the statement they made" kind of practice， and this was followed by an eventual conclusion to the example like "This continued for another hour， at which point the problem was solved"。 Like， oh yeah？ And how was that achieved？ What changes took place， at what point was there a resolution in which you stated YOUR needs？ In what way， besides the magical， did their frustration abate？ How is this supposed to work， and not just step 1 and 2， but alllll the way up to step 10， conflict resolved？ If the process described in the book were was a cake recipe， it would read as follows;1） All cakes have varying needs， make sure you preheat the oven to the correct temperature。2） Mix the relevant ingredients。 If they aren't properly mixed， just repeat the mixing process until it is complete。3） Several hours later don't forget to store the remaining cake in an airtight container。So， yes， I'm feeling frustrated when I read an incomplete description of the process because my need for understanding was unfulfilled。 I would request a more complete process flow。All in all， as long as you're content to skip the fluff and try and read the process and intent， it's not a complete waste。 I've learned a touch from it， just in terms of leading the person who's expressing their woes your direction to try and define the feelings and needs behind their statements。 And likewise， how to pause and express my needs in a way that has some chance of being interpreted as a bit more manageable and understandable to others。 。。。more
Larkin Tackett
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My brother recommended this book by a psychologist about how， as the title clearly describes， we can communicate in a way that reduces verbal （and sometimes physical） violence。 To help us shift from analyzing and judging others， the author asks us to assess needs and feelings on both sides。 The entire book can be summarized in the following set of questions to ask during a challenging situation:"What is this person feeling？ What is she or he needing？ How am I feeling in response to this person， My brother recommended this book by a psychologist about how， as the title clearly describes， we can communicate in a way that reduces verbal （and sometimes physical） violence。 To help us shift from analyzing and judging others， the author asks us to assess needs and feelings on both sides。 The entire book can be summarized in the following set of questions to ask during a challenging situation:"What is this person feeling？ What is she or he needing？ How am I feeling in response to this person， and what needs of mine are behind my feelings？ What action or decision would I request this person to take in the belief that it would enable them to live more happily？" He continues， "Because our response to these questions would reveal a lot about ourselves and our values， we would feel far more vulnerable than if we were to simply diagnose the other person。"I also really appreciated his take on praise and appreciation， especially his call to prioritize empathy。 "We hear what we have done that has contributed to others' well-being; we hear their feelings and the needs that were fulfilled。 We take into our hearts the joyous reality that we can each enhance the quality of others' lives。" 。。。more
Leslie S。
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Breve reseña del libro “Comunicación no violenta: Un lenguaje de vida” （1999）La comunicación no violenta， también llamada comunicación compasiva， o simplemente CNV es una propuesta del Dr。 Marshall Rosenberg （1934-2015） para comunicarnos internamente y con otras personas de forma efectiva y con empatía。 El autor plantea cuatro componentes de la CNV: （1） observar sin evaluar， （2） expresar cómo nos sentimos， （3） reconocer las necesidades detrás de nuestros sentimientos， y （4） elaborar peticiones p Breve reseña del libro “Comunicación no violenta: Un lenguaje de vida” （1999）La comunicación no violenta， también llamada comunicación compasiva， o simplemente CNV es una propuesta del Dr。 Marshall Rosenberg （1934-2015） para comunicarnos internamente y con otras personas de forma efectiva y con empatía。 El autor plantea cuatro componentes de la CNV: （1） observar sin evaluar， （2） expresar cómo nos sentimos， （3） reconocer las necesidades detrás de nuestros sentimientos， y （4） elaborar peticiones para enriquecer nuestra vida。 De hecho， el libro plantea una fórmula de comunicación efectiva: “cuando （observación）， yo me siento （sentimiento）， porque （necesidades）， por lo tanto， me gustaría （petición）”。La fórmula “observación-sentimiento-necesidades-petición” puede ser útil en algunos contextos， pero siento que cuando se trata de personas， no existen soluciones únicas ni fórmulas mágicas。 Así， aunque el libro contiene algunas enseñanzas útiles para la vida diaria （y que estoy segura pueden contribuir a generar mayor bienestar）， considero que no todas las recomendaciones son infalibles， más bien， todo dependerá del contexto。 Así， por ejemplo， sostener una conversación con alguien que solo se expresa utilizando la fórmula CNV podría ser desesperante。 A veces， lo mejor puede ser estar presente y ESCUCHAR， en vez de tratar de encasillar todo en una estructura de comunicación。 La mayor hazaña de este libro es que nos invita a reconocer la importancia de ampliar nuestro vocabulario con respecto a nuestros sentimientos y necesidades， y a reconocer que somos responsables de nuestros sentimientos （las acciones de otras personas pueden ser el estímulo， pero nunca la causa de nuestros sentimientos）。 También me parece destacable que la CNV se pueda utilizar tanto para expresarnos con sinceridad， como para recibir con empatía， reconociendo que todas las personas actúan “al servicio de necesidades y valores”。 Esto me parece esencial para resolver conflictos y generar mayor bienestar。 ALGUNAS FRASES:“Cuando elaboramos un vocabulario de sentimientos que nos permite nombrar o identificar de forma clara y precisa nuestras emociones， nos resulta más fácil conectarnos con los demás” （p。 57）。“Los juicios que hacemos sobre otras personas son expresiones alienadas de nuestras propias necesidades insatisfechas” （p。 62）。“La empatía consiste en una comprensión respetuosa de lo que los demás están experimentando” （p。 99）。 “Decimos mucho cuando escuchamos los sentimientos y las necesidades del otro” （p。 120）。“El perdón a nosotros mismos en la CNV: la conexión con la necesidad que tratábamos de cubrir cuando hicimos lo que ahora lamentamos haber hecho” （p。 135）。ANEXO*Ejemplos de cómo es probable que alguien se sienta cuando sus necesidades están satisfechas: afortunado， agradecido， alegre， calmado， cautivado， confiado， conmovido， descansado， divertido， emocionado， feliz， fuerte， generoso， humilde， ilusionado， inspirado， motivado， orgulloso， satisfecho， sorprendido， tranquilo… *Ejemplos de cómo es probable que alguien se sienta cuando sus necesidades NO están satisfechas: abrumado， aburrido， agitado， agotado， angustiado， ansioso， asustado， cansado， celoso， confuso， débil， decepcionado， deprimido， disgustado， distanciado， enojado， estancado， frustrado， herido， impaciente， incómodo， indeciso， inquieto， inseguro， preocupado， tenso， triste…*Ejemplos de necesidades humanas: autonomía， nutrición y cuidado físico （aire， descanso， movimiento， vivienda）， celebración y conmemoración， esparcimiento， integridad， comunión espiritual， interdependencia （aceptación， amor， apoyo， confianza， empatía， proximidad， respeto， seguridad）。 。。。more
Héctor Iván Patricio Moreno
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Creo que para mi y para todas las personas que he conocido （o por lo menos la mayoría）， este libro debería ser una lectura anual obligada。 Me dijo muchas cosas que son ciertas en mi forma de pensar y hablar y de las que no era consciente。El esquema que propone de comunicación es difícil de poner en práctica y es probable que en las situaciones comunes suene raro o poco natural， pero creo que eso es mil veces preferible a cerrar una conversación o relación en malos términos。Las ideas principales Creo que para mi y para todas las personas que he conocido （o por lo menos la mayoría）， este libro debería ser una lectura anual obligada。 Me dijo muchas cosas que son ciertas en mi forma de pensar y hablar y de las que no era consciente。El esquema que propone de comunicación es difícil de poner en práctica y es probable que en las situaciones comunes suene raro o poco natural， pero creo que eso es mil veces preferible a cerrar una conversación o relación en malos términos。Las ideas principales que me llevo de esta forma de comunicación son:1。 Todos los seres somos naturalmente compasivos y necesitamos compasión。2。 Debemos aprender a separar las cosas que generalmente percibimos juntas: observación y jucio， acción externa y sentimientos internos。3。 Comunicar claramente nuestras necesidades y sentimientos es importante porque nos ayuda a obtener aquello que necesitamos。4。 Los cuatro pasos de un mensaje bien comunicado deberían ser: observación （muy importante: sin juicio）， sentimientos que surgieron， necesidad no cubierta， petición directa。5。 El castigo no sirva para lograr nuestros objetivos a largo plazo。6。 Algunas acciones que sirven para lograr que las personas actúen como necesitamos o queremos a largo plazo， son contraproducentes en la relación a largo plazo。7。 Lo que muchas personas necesitan realmente es ser escuchadas y entendidas。8。 Asumir es un gran error en la mayoría de los casos。Si sientes que muchas de tus conversaciones son improductivas o terminan mal， sobre todo con personas queridas， creo que este libro es una joya de conocimiento， claro， tomado con un granito de sal como todo debe ser en la vida。 。。。more
Peter Jonsson
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some really nice ideas in there， worth pondering。 Not much help on practical use however， using his examples would probably get you killed quite soon。
Psicoleggimi
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